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Are you being abused?

  • Being put down in front of others or when alone?
  • Being belittled?
  • Says hurtful things to you?
  • Makes ALL the decisions in the relationship?
  • Being hit, slapped, pushed or shoved around?
  • Being strangled?
  • Threatens to have you arrested (appears as though it is your fault)?
  • Throws or breaks things?
  • Yells, gets in your face, screams?
  • Demands sex, makes you perform sexual acts you are not comfortable with, or sexually assaults you?
  • Controls the finances, leaving you little to spend or buy necessary items?
  • Follows you or monitors your coming and going?
  • Isolates you from friends and family?
  • Uses the children as "pawns" to control you?
  • Blames you for mistakes?
  • Jealous of people who talk to you, interrogates you about conversations?

  1. Money for cab
  2. Change of clothes (3 days) for each person
  3. Extra house & car keys
  4. Birth certificate(s)
  5. Driver's license
  6. Medications
  7. Credit card(s), cash & checkbook
  8. Legal documents
  9. Insurance information
  10. Valuable jewelry
  11. Baby/infant items
  12. Child's favorite toy (e.g., stuffed animal)
  13. Temporary Protective Order
  14. Cell phone (pre-paid)

The Power-Control Wheel

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INFORMATION

Violence is a cycle.  As tension begins to build, the other becomes acutely aware that something bad is going to happen.  Then the abuse takes place (verbal, physical, sexual, emotional, psychological).  After a cooling-down period, the proverbial honeymoon period sets in - usually with apologies, gifts, excuses and promises to stop.  Unfortunately, it does not stop; it only grows out of control.

Domestic and family violence includes components listed in this wheel.  At the heart (hub) is a person's need for both power and control.  One treats the other with threats, intimidation, isolation and other methods.

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The Wheel of Equality emphasizes that relationships are co-equal, no one is better or worse than the other.  At the heart (hub) of the wheel is equality - treating the other with respect.

 

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The Cycle of Violence

The Wheel of Equality

Camden County Risk

There are approximately 17,000 women over the age of 18 in Camden County.  Since 1 in 4 of these women may have experienced domestic violence, this would mean that about 4,200 adult women in our community have been or are at risk.  This data does not include the children (or even men) who have witnessed  or  experienced  the  violence   themselves;

nor does this data include teenage girls who have been victimized by dating violence.  We all know of someone who has experienced domestic violence.  Please give them a voice:  Silence only hides the violence!

My List of Escape Items:

Educate empower eradicate

If You Are Being Abused, There Is Help!  Please Call 911 or Camden House (912.882.7858) To Get Out Of A Violent {Or Potentially Violent} Situation!

Domestic Violence Defined

The Official Georgia Code defines domestic violence as any felony, battery, simple battery, simple assault, assault, stalking, criminal damage to property, unlawful restraint and criminal trespass between past or present spouses, persons who are parents of the same child, parents and children, stepparents and stepchildren, foster parents and foster children and persons living or formerly living in the same household.         (O.C.G.A. #19-13-1)

Domestic Violence and Children

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Camden County Family Violence Task Force

Studies have shown that children exposed to violence in his or her family show the same pattern of activity in their brains as soldiers exposed to combat.  Children are often too ashamed or hurt to tell someone that they have been hurt.  There is a principle that states, when children cannot verbalize what they are feeling, they will often act it out.  Please be an advocate for the most vulnerable - the child!